“There is something about poverty that smells like death. Dead dreams dropping off the heart like leaves in a dry season and rotting around the feet; impulses smothered too long in the fetid air of underground caves. The soul lives in sickly air. People can be slaveships in shoes.”—Zora Neale Hurston (via roropcoldchain)
How do you get a free ride from AAA Tipsy Tow if you drink too much on New Year’s Eve? Keep the number for AAA’s Tipsy Tow service in your pocket and if you get drunk ringing in 2012, this service could save your life. The American Automobile Association is offering free towing and a ride home between the hours of 6pm Saturday, December 31st – 6am on Sunday, January 1, 2012.
You do not have to have a AAA membership to use this service on New Year’s Eve. Call the AAA Tipsy Tow phone number at 1-800-222-4537 (1-800-AAA-Help) and ask for Tipsy Tow. A tow truck will be sent out and you, along with your car, will be taken straight to your home. If you have friends with you, the driver will take along as many passengers that can fit safely in the truck.
Please save this number, please pass it along. It is good all over the United States. It’s free. It’s SAFE! You can still have your fun!
Scent. Burn scented candles or incense. Pick some fresh flowers or herbs for your home (basil = heaven). Fry onions or garlic if it’s your thing (it’s definitely mine). If you can afford to, buy some essential oils that make you feel relaxed. You can wear them as perfume or dilute them with water and put into a spray bottle for your bed sheets. Bake cookies. Sit in a local coffee shop. Buy or make some fancy scented soap or lotion and use it liberally.
Touch. Are there textures that you find soothing? Collect them and keep them somewhere. Cuddle with a stuffed animal, a pillow, or a person. Go out in the grass with bare feet. Or to the beach (I love sand between my toes). Have a long, soothing bath or shower. Masturbate. Finger paint with your body as the canvas.
Sound. Go to the beach, or download/buy a cd of relaxing sounds like ocean waves (my favorite). Discover new music. Make a mix cd. Blast your favorite music. Sing along. Play an instrument.
Sight. Make an inspiration board. Redecorate your space. Find quotes that are the most helpful/inspirational to you and put them in places you’ll see them (ie. your walls). Go to a museum, zoo, aquarium, or another place that is visually stimulating. Change the lighting in your home/room (sometimes just covering a lampshade in a sheer colored fabric is enough) - this can make a huge impact on mood.
Taste. Try a new recipe or cook something familiar and comforting. Eat your favorite food. Eat juicy fresh fruit. Drink your favorite tea. Go to a restaurant, with a friend or by yourself (if you can), either a new one or your favorite one.
Self care activities:
Dance. In public or alone. Naked or clothed. Learn the dance moves from your favorite music videos or movies.
Write. Write yourself a letter (to your future self, past self, or for times of distress). Write someone else a letter. Write fiction or nonfiction. Write about something fun or ridiculous that happened to you, or something you wish would happen to you. Write erotica. Write poetry. Write an essay or a speech. Write a blog post or make a zine. Write down a list of things you like about yourself, and/or things that you’re good at.
Talk. Talk to your pet. Call a friend. Hang out with someone. Talk to a stranger. Go to a social event by yourself. Practice daily affirmations.
Exercise. Hula hoop. Go for a run, a hike, or a long bike ride. Go swimming or use your favorite equipment at the gym. Stretch. Practice yoga or pilates. Take an exercise class.
Go outside. Fresh air can do wonders. Walk around a familiar space, or explore a new one. Sit or lie in a park with a book or your imagination. Watch clouds or animals or other people. Blow bubbles or fly a kite. Go to a park with swings, and swing. Sunbathe. Tend to a garden or start one.
Learn. A new skill or new language. Read something that’s challenging. Watch a nature documentary.
Relax. Sleep. Sleep in. Stay in bed all day if you want/need to. Call out of work. Recognize the ways you’ve been pressuring yourself and try to let go. Do breathing exercises. Meditate.
Laugh. Watch a funny TV show or movie, or read a funny book. Tell jokes or learn new ones. Make funny faces at yourself in the mirror. Be goofy. Try laughter yoga.
Fun. Make travel plans. Play games, by yourself or with other people. Play with a pet, or go to an animal shelter and play with animals there. Go shopping, window or real. Play a sport. Dress up in clothes that make you feel fancy.
Beauty rituals. Get a haircut or do it yourself. Trim your bangs. Dye your hair. Paint your nails. Get a massage, pedicure, or other spa treatments if you have the money. Play with make up. Get a free makeover.
Use your hands. If you’re into it: knit, sew, embroider, cross stitch, draw, paint, take pictures. Weave, collage, reupholster a piece of furniture, build something, work on your car/bike, plant trees, go foraging.
Most importantly, GO EASY ON YOURSELF! Recognize your limitations and don’t overdo it. Don’t get too down on yourself for not getting shit done. Try to eliminate thoughts revolving around a need to be “productive”. If you need medication, please take it and realize there’s nothing wrong or “weak” about doing so. Recognize your needs and articulate them, especially when it comes to relationships with others. Realize there’s nothing wrong with being “selfish”. Cry when you need to. Identify & eliminate toxic people and behaviors from your life. Remember,you’re allowed to say no, and you deserve love too. Taking care of yourself and putting yourself first in a capitalist system is a form of resistance.
When things are well and truly messy and completely fucked up, don’t look at the whole room (or house). Look at one surface. One drawer. One square foot of floor space. Deal with that one thing. Pretend the rest of it doesn’t exist until you’re ready to move on to the next thing.
We get overwhelmed because we look at things as a whole. Break them down into tiny pieces, and keep yourself from freaking out.
She’s someone I went to high school with so this is legit and I know her. Her mom had terminal cancer and she couldn’t find an insurance company would cover her because of a pre-existing company.
But here’s the thing. She had set aside money for her mom’s funeral but a week before her mother died, her aunt passed. So she had to use that money to bury her aunt. Now she can’t cover her mother’s burial. Even if you can donate just $5, it’d help.
Ro is almost at her goal. She is amazed and overwhelmed at the showing of love and support. Please help her make it!
Young people like you and I love to talk about how we don’t care. But we are all self conscious of our looks, how we act, our social status, and all kinds of other little bullshit.
But old people?
They really stop giving a flying fuck about anything around 65-70 years of age.
Clothes? Don’t give a fuck.
Sweatpants and velcro shoes from payless. Every day.
Social graces? Don’t give a fuck.
Granny gone deliver that Ether to the entire family at the Christmas party. “Your father was a failure, and you look like a loose woman in that skirt”
Also, when old people are tired…… they go right the fuck to sleep. It doesn’t matter where they are. At a restaurant, in the car, at the ballgame, maybe even in the middle of a conversation with you.
Driving? Don’t give a fuck.
You know how McDonalds has those black metal gates surrounding the fun house/jungle gym type things that children play in? My Grandma drove her caprice through the fucking gate……….and still got out, went in the restaurant, and ordered a sundae. I shit you not.
Dying? Don’t give a fuck.
After suffering indignities such as pissing on yourself and being largely invisible to the world, some of them are just ready to go.
This is why I love old people and enjoy hanging with them cuz they’re so gully. I love my grandmothers for this very reason. I can totally be myself & talk freely to them cuz it’s a judge-free zone. Afterall, they’ve been there and done that several times cuz there’s nothing new under the sun. Old folk for the win!
I stay tight with the mothers in my church cause of this. And they ALWAYS got the tea.
Sound therapists and Manchester band Marconi Union compiled the song. Scientists played it to 40 women and found it to be more effective at helping them relax than songs by Enya, Mozart and Coldplay.
Weightless works by using specific rhythms, tones, frequencies and intervals to relax the listener. A continuous rhythm of 60 BPM causes the brainwaves and heart rate to synchronise with the rhythm: a process known as ‘entrainment’. Low underlying bass tones relax the listener and a low whooshing sound with a trance-like quality takes the listener into an even deeper state of calm.
Dr David Lewis, one of the UK’s leading stress specialists said: “‘Weightless’ induced the greatest relaxation – higher than any of the other music tested. Brain imaging studies have shown that music works at a very deep level within the brain, stimulating not only those regions responsible for processing sound but also ones associated with emotions.”
The study - commissioned by bubble bath and shower gel firm Radox Spa - found the song was even more relaxing than a massage, walk or cup of tea. So relaxing is the tune, apparently, that people are being Rex advised against listening to it while driving.
The top 10 most relaxing tunes were: 1. Marconi Union - Weightless 2. Airstream - Electra 3. DJ Shah - Mellomaniac (Chill Out Mix) 4. Enya - Watermark 5. Coldplay - Strawberry Swing 6. Barcelona - Please Don’t Go 7. All Saints - Pure Shores 8. AdelevSomeone Like You 9. Mozart - Canzonetta Sull’aria 10. Cafe Del Mar - We Can Fly
my muscles stopped functioning
I know what I’m going to go to sleep listening to.
I feel light-headed.
HOLY SHIT BRO. everything just. slowed down.
what is air
I Feel Really Heavy
This post will literally improve my life in a significant way.
I just kind of stopped everything that I was doing and sat still, for seemingly no reason that I could explain. Other than this having taken over all function.
Oh dear gawd…. I feel ahmazing listening to this……….. 0___0 It’s weird how my heart beat did go with the rhythm
OK that shit is weird, but this shit damn near knocked me clean out! Had to stop listening to it for fear of falling asleep.
THA FUCK IS THIS SORCERY? I do not like weird things!!!!
This is the thing: When you hit 28 or 30, everything begins to divide. You can see very clearly two kinds of people. On one side, people who have used their 20s to learn and grow, to find … themselves and their dreams, people who know what works and what doesn’t, who have pushed through to become real live adults. Then there’s the other kind, who are hanging onto college, or high school even, with all their might. They’ve stayed in jobs they hate, because they’re too scared to get another one. They’ve stayed with men or women who are good but not great, because they don’t want to be lonely. … they mean to develop intimate friendships, they mean to stop drinking like life is one big frat party. But they don’t do those things, so they live in an extended adolescence, no closer to adulthood than when they graduated.
Don’t be like that. Don’t get stuck. Move, travel, take a class, take a risk. There is a season for wildness and a season for settledness, and this is neither. This season is about becoming. Don’t lose yourself at happy hour, but don’t lose yourself on the corporate ladder either. Stop every once in a while and go out to coffee or climb in bed with your journal.
Ask yourself some good questions like: “Am I proud of the life I’m living? What have I tried this month? … Do the people I’m spending time with give me life, or make me feel small? Is there any brokenness in my life that’s keeping me from moving forward?”
Now is your time. Walk closely with people you love, and with people who believe … life is a grand adventure. Don’t get stuck in the past, and don’t try to fast-forward yourself into a future you haven’t yet earned. Give today all the love and intensity and courage you can, and keep traveling honestly along life’s path.